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Sunday, August 2, 2009

Want to connect? Play!

When things start to feel stressful and you need somewhere safe to go, if you are married, it is your spouse. Well, what if the arguing and frustration is coming from that relationship?

You need to play.

It's really hard to get things started because you have argued about money, or priorities or what needs done around the house. If you are like me you hang on to things for awhile too. He walks out of the room and 15 minutes later it is as if you had never had a disagreement while you are still stewing in your firm belief that he has no clue about the person he married and WHAT are you going to have to do to get through to him, right?

Well, the best thing I have found to do is go do something fun. It is a conscience choice to put aside the things that annoy you and focus on the fun and silly guy you dated. Fun and games is a time where any disagreements or differences should either be utilized in the game, or put aside for the time being.

We have started riding bikes together. It is great family time, and we like to play jokes on each other and our son. It is just a chance to get outside and have some fun while being healthy. I have loved it.

We also have started trying to work together in the kitchen. I am learning how to share the space. I tend to have my way of doing things and my own rhythm, so this is a "fun" activity...in the making.

We also like to work in the yard together. Planning, planting, then sitting back and just enjoying the atmosphere.

We even like to play hidden treasure computer games together. We lay on the bed, have popcorn and look for objects together. Sounds silly but it is relaxing and fun.

What do you like to do to find the fun and silly guy you married? Bowl? Roller skating? Dancing? Cooking?

Make fun time a priority and you will find, as I have, that you are more willing to let the little things that used to annoy you go. Playing and dating like teens reminds you why you found him to be the hottie he is in the first place and reconnects you to each other on a more relaxed level.

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6 comments:

Melanie said...

Great ideas! I never thought about playing in the wake of a disagreement, but it makes sense.

Came here via Marriage Monday at Chrysalis.

e-Mom said...

Fantastic! I loved your post. You two obviously have "fun" all figured out!

We like to fix up houses together... it's our fun AND our work. We also like to go for walks and Sunday drives.

Marriage should be fun shouldn't it? This sentence makes me laugh:
Playing and dating like teens reminds you why you found him to be the hottie he is in the first place and reconnects you to each other on a more relaxed level.

Amen! Thanks for joining us for Marriage Monday today.

Blessings,

e-Mom
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Tami Boesiger said...

Great thoughts and FUN to implement.

Andrea said...

I have a tendency to hold onto things too. It's something the Lord has drawn my attention to and something I'm working to improve upon.

I love this advice:
It is a conscience choice to put aside the things that annoy you and focus on the fun and silly guy you dated.

I think it'll be harder to hold onto things if I follow that advice. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I enjoyed my visit here today.

Constance said...

Our favorite fun activity is hiking together. I love seeing the kid in him when he finds a perfect photo opportunity!
Connie

Shanda said...

Absolutely!! Distractions and making fun memories are great stress relievers. We like to bike together too!

Your post just popped up today on my blogger...not sure why?

Blessings to you!